Wikimedia is going through CoC discussions at present. So far it breaks down as:
* literally all the women think a proper and enforceable CoC is a good idea
* about half the men concur
* the other half of the men don't see what's in it for them and consider it very important to say so, repeatedly, lots and lots, just in case anyone didn't hear them the first several times.
Very few take it as far as you do here; I'll go so far as to say I'm glad about that.
Do you think that the irrational behavior of the third group of your list is a good sign, or something that should be easily dismissed? Yet another demand is made from men to change the system to accommodate women. When is it ever enough? Never.
Why is it that we cannot expect more from women, instead of always expecting more from men? Why can we not demand that women, if they so badly want to be a part of a male dominated system, become more assertive, aggressive, learn how to deal? Why, in a society that believes in democracy, must the majority adapt to the minority? Because women are different, special beings that are in need of ubiquitous protection?