I would walk away from that situation. Any startup that's unwilling to do everything Sam outlined above is IMO not worth my time.
Hell, refusing to answer something as simple as "what percentage are these shares worth"?! I'd run, not walk, away from that one.
If you want to encourage workers by making them investors in the company, then treat them like it.
Having been around the startup block a few times now, there are some tells that are definitely warning signs for me.
The most ridiculous are things like demanding a NDA to even discuss the company. If a founder asks for a NDA just to have coffee, I am out - in my experience it's a 100% indicator of someone who has no idea what the fuck they're doing.
Secrecy around valuation, options pool, etc, are less damning but still very much a yellow flag when it comes to how they treat employees and how much experience the founders have. In general I find that inexperienced and immature founders tend to focus on secrecy in the wrong places (and conversely, lack of secrecy where it matters).
Indeed. I've seen this countless times, even occasionally in SV where people should know better. Starting a company is really really hard. It's fundamentally about deciding where to channel your energy when you have a completely green field but only enough resources to execute on 0.01% of your ideas. The focus must be pinpoint and relentless to even have a chance. The idea that the risk of someone stealing your idea is worth devoting any mental energy to indicates that you don't have your priorities straight. Hell, even in a worst case scenario where you have a great non-obvious idea, and someone steals it, if you want an NDA so you can sue them then you're essentially betting on their superior execution capability.
Run don't walk from this kind of hot air balloon.
And ultimately a startup is nothing but relentless, on-point, highly competent execution.
But in any case that may be ascribing psychology where there is none. Invariably though the founders I meet who are like that are also very inexperienced and 100% of the time have never built a product before, which is probably why they value idea over execution.
This is totally unacceptable