I certainly have never had the urge to go through her stuff and I don't believe (although to be fair it's not something we've discussed) she's ever looked at mine either. As well as being a couple we're both individuals with our own lives and dealings and interests, and to be breathing down each others' necks 24/7 would imply a massive lack of trust. I genuinely don't get why being in a relationship should mean giving up privacy and personal space - it seems incredibly unhealthy to me.