After reading this article I still haven't the faintest idea what I read. Tinder? Make your intentions clear, wrap it up in a few messages. Go get laid. End of story.
Sex is infinitely easier for women than it is men.
Sex is infinitely easier for women than it is men.
Finding a good partner that you like and click with and who you'll actually have enjoyable, rewarding sex with is much, much harder.
I (guy here) have had a few hookups where I didn't particularly like the person, and wasn't even that attracted to them, but the opportunity was there and I took it. I don't really regret it, but on the effort-to-reward scale, it was just barely worth it. I probably would have gotten a better value for my time going to see a movie and eating a burger.
Maybe my secondary abstinence isn’t in allegiance to God but
to my own broken heart and the fear that seems to produce a
kind of magnetic repellant whenever I come close to someone
I desire.
Look, a couple of replies up, this genius suggests that she "become a prostitute":
https://news.ycombinator.com/reply?id=10402613&goto=item%3Fi...
... because, to him, it's reasonable for a sexually frustrated woman to sleep with the kind of men who visit prostitutes; that shouldn't constitute a minus on her utility function, right?
I think that's very wrong if for no other reason taht if all you want is unqualified sex then you can get a prostitute of which there are many more females than males, so it should by that measure alone be easier for men.
So... if you want more sex, work your way to the 20%; feel for the gradient and walk uphill.
Edit: I interpret "want" not as "desire" but as "decide to have sex taking everything into account (desire, danger, risk, ...)"
Women want sex. They want it as much as men want it. They just don't want to have it with people whom they find unattractive. No shit. Are you any different?
Now, you might say, "but I'm not so unattractive". You might even be Brad Pitt himself, or whomever passes as the male archetype for attractiveness these days, IDK, it's not a scorecard I keep up on. But that's moot. You don't get to define what attractiveness means to anyone. Just because they didn't have sex with you doesn't mean they don't want to have sex.
In fact, that is exactly the difference. Men want sex so much that they will even sleep with someone to whom they have zero attraction. And afterwards, not only will they feel no shame or disgust, but they might even brag about it to their friends.
Sure, some women want sex that much. But, most do not - as you say they value the attraction. So, it's only logical that it's easier for women to have sex. The problem is that sex alone is not enough. So it's not any easier for them to get what they desire.
"Zero attraction" is clearly false. I have met very few men who would sleep with a 300lbs woman, even disregarding their own weight. About as many women I've met who would sleep with such a man.
Yes, if you are a woman choosing to operate like a man. Most women don't, because they are women not men.