In other words, at least in my anecdotal case, it was difficult to break in to ham radio as a youngster because the old folks were actively trying to push me out, and yet these are the same people who claim the hobby is dying. Luckily I stuck with it and got more respect among the older folks after getting my Extra and learning CW (even though it's no longer a requirement).
The home owner invited me, a stranger, inside and basically left me alone in a room with tens of thousands of dollars of equipment and said "Have fun!" I stayed for hours. I would join his club if it were closer to me.
In general, however, unless you're complaining about how Obama is ruining the country or how your arthritis is acting up, it's hard to fit in with most hams.
/r/amateurradio is a good place for some of the newer generation hams to hang their hat.
AMPR is interesting, HSMM is basically taking the ham radio spectrum in normal Wifi ranges and using it.. 2.4 and 5.8ghz spectrum also has ham allocations, so your old Linksys or some of the newer Ubiquity devices can be used under your ham license as well at high speed for backhaul connections (All unencrypted, but.. )