You (and others) are not alone. Infinity was a major problem for a very, very long time, with many contradictions and paradoxes arising because of insufficiently careful reasoning.
Here's another explanation:
http://www.solipsys.co.uk/new/CantorVisitsHilbertsHotel.html...
and here's something some people think of as a paradox:
[1] Well, you can have +/-infinity... or you can make it the same infinity at both ends. This is really the only way to go when you deal with the complex plane instead of the real line. But regardless, the point is in topology, infinity can be treated as singular and definite.
The concepts of infinite sizes of sets and point "at infinity" are different, and should be separated.
The thing is, there are multiple infinities even in the sense you're thinking about. For example, you can have one at the end of every line in the complex plane. That gives you the projective plane. Again, in topology.
The one you're thinking of is the one-point compactification of the plane, but it's not the only one.
And trust me, you do not want to be doing any sort of calculus on the complex plane with anything other than a single infinity. Conformal mappings really don't work well without that simplification. And with that simplification, everything is magical and you can integrate rainbows to get unicorns and candy canes.
Nonetheless, your point is valid, it's possible to have more than a single point at infinity. However, regardless, it's more conventional to think of infinity as a particular point with some unusual properties, and in these cases with multiple infinities they're all basically the same. You don't have classes of infinities the same way you have classes of infiniteness.
> Actually, having an infinity at the end of
> every line on the complex plane just gives
> you a simple disc.
Er, judging from the rest of your comment you must simply have misunderstood me. For every line through 0 in the complex plane, take a point and define it to be at both ends of the line. That is doing as you say, associating antipodal points.And I do do calculus (well, equivalent procedures) on such objects. It's clear from your comments that you know about these things - trust me that I do as well.
So we're agreed that the concept of infinite sized sets and the concept of "points at infinity" are different, and for teaching about "infinity" it might be useful to separate them explicitly.
Interesting observation. Thanks.
Also, thanks for being civil in response to my show-off-y reply.
IIRC, I first got my head around different orders of magnitude regarding infinities with George Gamow's popular "1, 2, 3, infinity" [1].
However -- I think, it's been a long long time since I read it -- that book presented different infinities in exactly the same way that someone who could only count to 20 would compare sets of hundreds of items.
That is: assume that space is infinitely bounded, with an infinite amount of matter. You might say that there are infinitely many galaxies, and there are infinitely many stars. However, there are also infinitely many more stars than there are galaxies, because each galaxy contains more than one star.
That's a fine trick for developing a simple understanding of infinities, but then apparently in later maths it completely falls over.
For example, I'm one of the many people who have a rather primal loathing for the notion that .999 repeating is really equal to 1. (I literally do have a powerful emotional response to this. I hate it. I know it's been proven. I know it's a fact. But I hate it.)
[1]: http://www.amazon.com/One-Two-Three-Infinity-Speculations/dp...