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I searched the article and found only one mention of "money".

My hypothesis is that libido mismatch and inability to reach consensus on household budgeting are the two strongest root causes for failed marriages.

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There was distinct libido mismatch which ultimately deteriorated into an effective 'weapon', if you will (if you do this, you won't get that, kind of thing). Money was never a problem. I suspect money is Often used as convenient excuse hiding something more sinister (or prosaic like in my case, we just never loved one another )

It's easier to live with being broke if your sexual needs are being met.

If you're broke and sexually unfulfilled, that's not going to last.

Or even if you have money and are sexually unfulfilled. I'm pretty sure for myself, a libido mismatch was a contributing factor for some of our issues. We do fine, not in the 1%, but certainly in the 5-6% (household income ~140k in a not terrible cost of living area).

Our times of interest were even wonky. I get tired at night and lose interest, that's when she wanted it. I liked it in the morning (after brushing the teeth), she likes to sleep in as much as possible (After a kid, that means until he/she wakes up).

And she was quick to reach (sorry if this is TMI, lol), while I took a bit longer, and she was extra sensitive after and... uh, dried up so it became painful for her after she got hers.

After awhile, sex become uninteresting if you are the one not getting fulfilled, and the marriage suffers. No amount of money fixes that.

Tmi!

I'm not willing to go into detail but my divorce was very much about sexual incompatibility.

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