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I no longer care if the men on HN don't like me

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Nice clickbait title... I certainly fell for it. The post has nothing to do with HN users but VCs in SV in general.

Same, got tricked into it.

wasn't a trick- see above. I just didn't call out this forum

the post has everything to do with men here. As a woman, HN is a really unfriendly place. Of all the places- and all the traction that my post "VCs don't compare me to your wife" got. HN was the only forum where I got attacked and trolled mercilessly

https://medium.com/life-tips/vcs-don-t-compare-me-to-your-wi...

"attacked and trolled" you mean the 2016 equivalent of "disagreed with"?

I just read through all the responses to all her comments and the whole "VCs, don't compare me to your wife" thread -- and I see nothing that even resembles an attack.

Even the disagreements are extremely mild.

There were a couple people who asked for a chat transcript to put a statement in context. Maybe "attacked and trolled" means being asked for proof.

I went back and looked at it- you can see it here. The majority of the worst comments were actually flagged and delted. So what you see now is nothing like what the conversation was like in real time https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11105161

I was coming from the fact that your Medium article is titled very differently than the title of your link on HN. While I've not had the same experiences as you in terms of comment feedback (full disclosure: I'm a man), I would say that HN is a much more high-minded community than other popular destinations on the internet.

That doesn't excuse any behavior obviously, but I've seen many instances of outright misogynistic comments and hateful no-content replies get downvoted consistently on HN.

Actually, in the article- the "very vocal minority who are extremely critical" were men from HN. Almost exclusively.

The worst attacks and most vicious criticisms came from the reaction from men here

I get a fair amount of criticism from men too -- in fact, every overt attack and criticism I get comes from men.

I seriously doubt it's because I'm a woman though.

Can you link to these threads? I didn't see these attacks you describe in any of the comments on your HN submissions.

EDIT: I'm not trying to be a jerk or anything, I'm just genuinely curious since sexist/mean responses go against what I generally observe in HN comments.

Many people wrongly think disagreement and criticism IS sexism and harassment.

Here is the link https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11105161

I reviewed it and the worst comments were flagged, deleted and removed

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