Often, there's a very large skill gap between the student and the teacher (especially at college level, where many of the career mathematicians live and breathe maths), and these things are hand-waved away as obvious. Even worse is when the teacher doesn't actually know, and is just presenting the material straight from a guide. The way most course material seems to be set up is to skip over the middle part, and as a result the best short term strategy is to learn it as a bag of tricks.
I love maths, but I think its universal applicability and beauty get lost due to the way it's generally taught.
The toughest part of teaching, I think, must be really knowing that your students are internalizing the core rules/principles/concepts behind the examples you teach with.
[1] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Integration_by_parts#Tabular...