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How Tinder turns an emotionally stable adult into a lovesick teenager

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Am I the only one who gets the vibe that the author is not particularly well adjusted and is hoping that somehow this post goes viral and gets him a shot with that girl? Even the first paragraph doesn't exactly scream "emotionally stable".

I may be projecting, because that's totally something highschool-aged me would have done. But to me this reads as a transparent attempt at getting a girl's attention rather than any valuable insight about Tinder.

Edit: a word.

Hah, I was taking that angle for granted. The author almost seems to acknowledge that himself. I still found that last section of the article kind of interesting though.

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If I was a betting man... ;)

Sexual attraction is a powerful thing. Anyone who thinks they can cleanly separate their emotions from their sex drive is kidding themselves. Tinder is bringing casual sex to people (male and female) who might not have considered it as an option before, so it's going to expose people to unexpected emotions.

Do you think the mechanism described at the end of the article is necessarily sexual though? It sounded like the thing the OP was talking about was more the exotic pressure of suddenly having something whisper in Bob's ear "Alice thinks your cute". If that is surprising information for Bob, and all Bob gets to do is send 1 or 2 texts to Alice, I can understand that Bob will get some kind of acute OCD with respect to those 1 or 2 texts. It seems rational, given their weight. Even more so if Bob is driven by his love drive and not his sex drive.

cringe cringe and more cringe.

I don't know Hannah, but generally women DO NOT want you telling everyone and the internet that you found her on tinder.

There are exceptions...if he's Russell Brand it's OK. But from the writing style it seems he's not the hot guy she's talking about :)

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