nobody is excusing it at all. But you are dreaming if you think you are going to stop it cold turkey along with you stopping shoplifting, child abuse, elder abuse, car accidents, bank fraud, armed robbery, etc. Those things are also biologically determined, they simply don't involve the reproductive function directly which seems to make you ... more optimistic? more outraged?

Actually, BTW, I have read (but not looked up myself) that if we count prison rape, men actually experience more sexual violence than women, so that part of the above formulation should perhaps be changed. And in terms of child abuse including to the point of murder, women perpetrate more of it than men do, so there is some value in looking at these issues from the point of view of "strong vs. weak + opportunity" biology rather than "gender".

But you are correct, violence between humans is for the most part a very bad thing, and I too would like to see it reduced as quickly as possible regardless of the cause.