If you really want to code, you need to figure out what libraries/frameworks/tooling/etc are popular in your area, and spend at least a year or two working on open projects which use them; learning them inside out.
The good news is that it's possible. I, and others, have gotten jobs without a degree. The bad news is you need to be damned good to do it.
It's a marathon. Not a sprint. You're looking at 2 to 5 years spending 20 hours a week on this. It will most likely not make you money during this time; so you need to love doing it.