Yeah, they actually hold meetings with the community on Google Hangouts where they literally discuss every move in the open. Just because you aren't following it doesn't mean that it isn't happening.
Entirely aware they do, even watched the relevant part for the csroj piece today; however, not everyone has time to sit through the stand-ups. And when the discussion with the community blows up on Github things don't look as promising as they once did. Sorry I don't share your same sentiment, but I am seemingly not alone in how I feel.
If it really bothers you and you don't believe your concerns will be taken into account and there is a huge ground swelling of community support, its Apache 2.0 Licensed, fork it and make something better that fits with your vision: https://github.com/dotnet/roslyn-project-system
Its OSS, nothing stopping you...
Damn I like to complain not code, that's why I'm on HN right now.