Well, for the 14% of the population that works on, sure.
Confidence is key, but there is a difference between a confident stud and a confident creep.
Confidence is key, but there is a difference between a confident stud and a confident creep.
It is good to play with expectations, to acknowledge them without actually "acknowledging" them. A creep wouldn't have the confidence to let this play out; they have to confirm that the other person is aware of the "acknowledgment" being played out. It's like some guy saying "did you get it? Did you get the joke?" Except the creep is saying this with everything he does. His body language, tone, talking speed, and even with his language.
A "confident creep" is a contradiction.
My "confident creep" has inner confidence in his abilities (he might even think of himself as a god among men), but he cannot correctly project his confidence (though in his mind, he is projecting it correctly). He can drop any empathy and ask such a question without being nervous, but his style, dress, conversation, etc. are so awkward, it fails.
Point being: Confidence is not the only thing that matters. You actually need social skills.