When Music Is Violence
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Have tried the civil route, but it's not working and it's not illegal to be a rude neighbor. Anyone have any insights on how best to handle this, other than moving out?
In many jurisdictions it most certainly is illegal to be a rude neighbor. I don't know where you live, but in the U. S. having the cops show up to a loud party is almost a rite of passage. Where I in your situation here in Redmond, WA, I'd have one last civil conversation my neighbor, ending with "I'm hope we can work this out, as I'd hate to call the cops." And when that didn't work, call the cops.
Wait a minute, you don't live in Redmond, and this isn't that guy down by the Power Line Trail with the horrendous taste in adult easy listening, is it? If so, my sympathies as the dog and I can barely stand to run past there in the evenings, let alone live next door.
(Unless it's 1 in the morning which is a terrible time for a backyard show.)
Having been that younger person at one point in my life, I've never been a "call the cops first" kind of person. As you point out, kids often don't even think that they might be bothering someone. Kids'll be kids, eh?
Once you hit about 30 or so, though, it's time to cut that shit out. I'll still have a civil conversation first, but you only get the one.
My office uses internet radio at minimal noise levels just so the environment doesn't feel eerily quiet or like a crypt. But half the folks wear headphones (I am one of them - I can barely hear the radio). Books on "tape", music, podcasts, silence or white noise - whatever floats your boat. They are easy enough to remove if you need to chat with someone.
Headphones of this type typically provide around 30dB of attenuation, enough to reduce loud music to a gentle murmur. I highly recommend them to anyone who works in an open-plan office.
http://europe.beyerdynamic.com/shop/dt-770-m.html
http://en-uk.sennheiser.com/hd-280-pro
http://www.extremeheadphones.com/passive-noise-isolation-hea...
They are actually very effective, both for airplane style noise, but also for street noise, people talking in an office, and music playing.
Haven't tried Bose themselves, but active noise cancellation on Parrot Zik's works well, and all reviews say Bose's is even better.
Plus, if you also play your own music on top, you can't really hear anything -- to the point of it being dangerous if you're walking in the street, crossing roads, etc.
Not if you fly a lot (or even a reasonable amount). I don't have Bose ones, but active cancelling works amazingly well for that constant hum on airplanes.
Do you have a good source on that? I'm thinking about getting some noise-cancelling headphones for office use.
>Actually, noise-cancelling headphones can be beneficial, since both loud noises and constant low-level noise can lead to health problems. Acute loud noises can damage hearing, interfere with sleep, raise blood pressure and stress levels and cause headaches. As for low-level noise, a study published in the Journal of the Acoustical Society of America in March, 2001, found that Austrian children who live in neighborhoods with constant low-level noise (mostly from automobile and train traffic) had higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol than youngsters who lived in quieter neighborhoods. And a study published in the February, 2006, issue of the European Heart Journal found that heart attack risk was higher among people exposed to chronic noise. I actually recommend noise-canceling headphones to help avert the health problems noise exposure can present.
http://www.drweil.com/drw/u/QAA400774/Are-Noise-Cancelling-H...
And tons of others -- besides the basic lack of any mechanism by which noise cancelling cans could be harmful for the ears compared to regular ones. The burden on proof is on the "damage" side.
You'd be surprised -- plus that is flatly wrong.
I have a pair of noise cancelling cans (Parrot Zik 2) and they can totally eliminate street musicians coming aboard on your subway train and playing and singing next to you in full blast (we get that a lot in my country) -- along with all other train talk and noises. Same for office music and other things -- it's not just for ambient noise by any means.
And the Zik are not even considered the best cans out there in their noise cancelling department.
I quick google search seems to suggest otherwise.
Except on December 23rd when there were 3 people in the office and I really wanted to play the album "Christmas Island" by Jimmy Buffett and my QA guy wanted to play "The Gift of Rock" by Smash Mouth. We might have not fully represented the holiday spirit that day.
I've spoken with my direct manager and my team about it, and the compromise is that whenever he's playing music I don't like, I simply put on headphones and go about my day. Everyone is totally cool with this arrangement, even the music man, who tries his best to be inclusive and will often ask everyone else (myself included) for musical requests.
That depends on how loud the music is, and other things besides. You might want to check with your city to see if you can file a noise complaint.
I'm guessing there'd a node where everything sounds perfectly quiet... and then everywhere else, it would just sound like two overlapping copies of the sound with a lot of weird dropped-out frequencies (which themselves would change over time.)
SONG FOR THE STUPID RAVER SHITHEAD WHO LIVES UNDERNEATH ME AND ALWAYS PLAYS HIS SHITTY...
http://web.archive.org/web/20040807015518/http://www.jamhand...
(Not that that's a constructive way to deal with the problem. Just a techincally interesting one.)
I'd be worried that this would greatly increase the risk that your actions could be found to be some kind of harassment.
you can just use it to "noise-cancel" in your apartment without "attack" component. After all they start to use active cancellation to decrease turbo-props noise for the passengers.
Tell yourself it will be over soon.
If it's same time each day, create a routine to be out (cafe, library browse, exercise) - he can help you reach your goals!
I have had success in talking to the person, but only by caring about them, as a person, first.
You can move, but noise seem to follow me around - construction noise, air conditioning hum, people running/jumping upstairs - to a greater or lesser extent.
Lower density housing (eg rural or wilderness) helps but talk and music in a noisy cafe doesn't bother me, but furtive conversation in a quiet library does...
It's funny, when I'm enthralled by projects and life, I don't notice these annoyances... I think it can be a sign that I've lost touch with myself or am blocked in some way.
To a small degree, I tried talking and caring about the person which is how we found the minimum volume he could lower his music to. It's not low enough though, and I'm not sure if he'd be willing to use earphones. The issue remains, and I'm making progress resolving things from my end, including mental things like trying to accept that the singer is probably a great and sweet person who I have no reason to dislike.
As for these annoyances, I <i>have</i> recently been struggling to design an MVP for an idea I'm pursuing..
xD Nice that you were able to resolve the issue in at least a fair way.
If it's loud enough or during certain hours, it definitely is. And even if it isn't illegally loud, you can try and complain anyways. From my experience the police usually don't care about the specifics and side with the complaint maker by default.
My high school punk band's practices were shut down way too many times by police, even though we would practice in a closed garage during daylight hours at a legal level. Because even if you're allowed to do it, what else can you do when cops are banging at your door saying you're not? Unless you have a Decibel meter and print-outs of local noise ordinances on hand, the response is generally "Doesn't matter, sounds too loud to me. Turn it off."
If you want to go full psi-op you need something like "It's a small world" or Barney on repeat.
Who let the Dogs out? The noisy neighbour tripping the acoustical switch did!
The second song listed is an ode to a woman and her sexual prowess. How is this threatening or mocking?
It's slowly starting to bother me.