(I'm not trying to be factious, I'm genuinely interested)
I saw one of the things you listed in previous comments is you don't get up voted when you get closest to the correct answer. Is it that important?
obviously the same kind of thing happens in real life, but there conversation is much more fluid, so these signs are transient and negotiable. also, there's not a finite number of rooms in which you can chat to other people - it's easier to adapt the context.
someone else has said how they managed to get over this in the shower. good for them. i got over it by writing a greasemonkey script. generally i find writing a script to be easier than changing my (largely subconscious) cognitive processes, but ymmv.
I appreciate your reply though, I am always interested to understand peoples frustrations with such things. Whether it is with my own applications or other peoples.