In part because of this, I find it really difficult to deal with people I work with complaining about pay/bonuses/hours etc, because imo what I do now is way easier and probably less empirically useful (although obviously more valuable - thanks capitalism).
There is a small part of me that misses the buzz of a busy service though.
I get what you're saying and that you likely don't mean any malice, but just in case: It isn't a competition to see who can have the worst working conditions.
That kind of rhetoric is the same that those with capital use to suppress wages/benefits because it's obviously profitable in the long run. It's a manipulation: Many people want to be seen as industrious, and telling someone they're entitled because they want an extra vacation day a year is a powerful manipulation that works much of the time.
Don't be manipulated. The company is almost assuredly making a huge return on your employment. Don't be afraid to assert your right to some of it.
Never go to ask for a bonus/raise because you "deserve" it, but because your skills are valued x in the current job market.
I mean some I know are very intelligent people, and extremely good at what they do, but make like $50k working 60+ hours per week. It's insane.
For those guys (and it was almost all guys) - it was just the only thing they wanted to do in life. This was also kinda the moment I realised it wasn't for me!