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He needs attention.

Reassure him that he still is your "Numero Uno" in every way. Spend some one on one time with him doing things he likes. Take him movies, parks or zoo etc alone.

Reestablish that "exclusive" relationship you once had with him. He feels that your original relationship is under threat after those two Johnny-come-lately arrived on the scene ... one after another!

Good luck.

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Oh ... and ... apologise to him for your behaviour of having to tie him up the bedpost! That's bullying. Exactly what you are facing. Our kids learn by copying and imitating, not by being told. (My hard lesson learned with 3 boys)

He actually thought it was fun. I tied him up with one of the play silks we have and a couple loose knots. Only took him a few minutes to work his way out of them but at least it diverted his attention and helped him calm down for a bit.

So ... Reward him?

Kids want to know most times that they are welcome in the herd/family. They need to feel reassured whenever there's upheaval, change in environments or other stresses in the lives of the adults who care for them. Kids have an uncanny ability to "know" that things are not going too well with Mom and Dad.

Paying attention and giving reassurance that your kid is still important is hardly a reward. It's their oxygen for their emotional development.

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