2.) Hot water certainly doesn't "evaporate" lead-- lead's boiling point is 1700C. Hot water can leach lead from solder joints, if your water isn't treated properly: https://www.epa.gov/ground-water-and-drinking-water/basic-in...
3.) Yeah, lead solder isn't great to spend a lot of time with, which is why RoHS was introduced in 2003: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Restriction_of_Hazardous_Subst...
4.) Where are you going to find bulk metallic mercury in any house built in the last three decades?
5.) Lead paint was also phased out years ago.
6.) Leaded avgas does still exist, and is bad. Don't buy property near airports that fly small planes.
7.) Teflon is about as chemically inert as a flororcarbon can possibly be. You might be thinking of Perfluorooctanoic acid, which is involved in Teflon production, and is pretty nasty: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perfluorooctanoic_acid
8.) Aluminum cookware isn't toxic, are you nuts?