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I disagree, I think it is a human tendency because it is often the path of least resistance (short term, but long term can accumulate and be not worth the alternative).

So while culturally it might have higher numbers in women, the numbers in men are high enough to sell books like "No More Mr. Nice Guy.". Good book by the way.

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So you agree it impacts women more but deny that it is a gendered issue. Gotcha.

It isn't a contradiction. They likely generalized 'gendered issue' to nearly one sided, one gender only. Rather than allowing for 'mostly'. I think I agree. The nice guy stereotype really does cover the doormat faked pleasantness of some people. Myself included on bad days.

You stated that the negative effect is higher for a woman than a man, thus claiming it to be a gender issue.

kross comment stated that the negative effect is the exact same for a woman or a man, thus disagreeing with your statement. It also states that the amount of women being "pleasers" are higher for cultural reasons.

You could claim that the culture that causes more women to be "pleasers" is an gender issue, in which you two might be in an agreement on that point if you two are also in an agreement on the definition of gender issues.

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