> As for your final paragraph about word choice: I'm not sure what you mean, I'm just talking about any software that is running somewhere and accessible across a network.
Well, a web browser is accessible across a network. An email client is accessible across a network. What fundamentally distinguishes a mail server from either of those that justifies rejecting to run one of those yourself outright, while presumably being fine with the others?
You seem to have some implicit assumption that a piece of software that opens a listening TCP socket is somehow much more vulnerable than one that doesn't. I don't think that that is justified, and if anything, gives you a false sense of security.
> but I'm getting the sense that if I did that, you would just be dismissive of all those things as "not a big concern", "because of complexity", "because of C", etc., and I would be wasting my time.
I am not dismissing anything, I am just pointing out why those aren't problems. If you disagree, feel free to disagree. And maybe make an actual more specific argument than "there are a lot of things one can do wrong".
I mean, how is it relevant that there are tons of ways to screw up buffer handling in C when the obvious solution is to just not write your own personal mail server in C? Yes, it is hard to write secure software in C. Very hard. Yes, there are cases where there are good reasons to write network software in C despite that. Is your own personal mail server one of them? No.
Or how is it relevant that the web is a hugely complex mess of inherently insecure APIs when the task at hand is writing an email server? Just don't write your email server as a web application and you don't have to deal with any of the myriads of security problems that plague the web.
> There are plenty of places you can go read about this stuff if you want to, but I don't think you do, I think you're just looking for an argument. Good luck to you!
Thanks, but I think I have found enough vulnerabilities to not need any introductory books to understand how people constantly screw up security in their code.