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Are you saying it's socially "obligatory" to not go to concerts alone? I've done that a few times, and I don't think anyone notices or cares, and if they do, so what?

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Absolutely, go to concerts alone. It harms nobody. If you go to the concert and made a point of standing facing the crowd glaring with your arms folded, that's harm. Obviously, you're there to have some fun or at least enjoy some good music.

I'm an introvert. I've gone to Disneyland alone, for God's sake. And I'm pretty sure that people who saw me there alone thought I was weird.

It was definitely a so what situation.

Generally people don't look twice at you. Unless you were dressed weird or something, they probably didn't try to determine whether you were there with someone or not, because it's too high a cognitive load to apply for everyone you see at Disneyland.

Or, in gaming speak: You're at the center of your minimap, but not at anyone else's.

This is a hard one for many, many people. Most people don't give a fuck because they have enough to deal with in their own life without thinking about yours all the time, too. It's an illusion that anyone is evaluating whether you came to the show with someone or not.

I could dress as mickey mouse every day because it'd be somewhat anonymous, at least at first, until that become my identity. Hey Mickey, what's up.

I'm pretty sure no one noticed you at all. It's like that spaghetti stain on your shirt, you can see it a mile away in a mirror but nobody gives a shit about it.

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