Cue the protest of "political correctness", as if not explicitly deriding her gender would put us at risk of whitewashing her crimes. I've liked using the b-word too. I stopped after working construction in a rural town, where perfectly decent fellows would use the n-word in the same context as the b-word, e.g. That's -work, or: I got shotgun, you're sitting .
I found it hard to believe that I could use the b-word and not have it be a subconscious comment on what I thought of women. Holmes is an asshole, no thought of gender needed.
Double standards, must protect the m'ladies!
Also, you're probably aware that there's often different tolerances for in-group use of a word. That shouldn't be a surprise, really, it's usually not the physical presence of a word that people object to.