And yet "asshole", "dick", "creep" and so on are perfectly valid to throw at a man without anyone worrying it's casting aspersions on the entire gender.
Double standards, must protect the m'ladies!
Double standards, must protect the m'ladies!
Also, you're probably aware that there's often different tolerances for in-group use of a word. That shouldn't be a surprise, really, it's usually not the physical presence of a word that people object to.