Except in real life people sometimes make malicious "mistakes" deliberately and when caught and called out on them either completely dismiss them or even gloat.
This reads almost like a fairy tale.
This reads almost like a fairy tale.
You are obviously free to decide to detach the threads that you see fit, but not detaching at the parent level strikes me as incomprehensible and discretionary.
A minority of people are toxic, you start by cutting them slack as you'd do anyone else, then you cut them off. It's not really a problem.
People who can handle serious mistakes in others are some of the best partners you can have in your efforts. IMHO they aren't fairy tales.
Instead of blasting people for mistakes they set about fixing the immediate problem, and then instead of demanding "accountability" from those responsible, they set about fixing the root cause.
A few excerpts from the linked article:
"Aside from the fact that there was immediate chatter about who might have made such a dumb move, the discussion quickly moved right on to how to fix the problem."
"Instead of dwelling on pinning the blame or lamenting the loss of time and effort, the team made sure to alter the backup strategy so that something like that didn’t happen again, and it went about making up for lost time."
[0] http://thenextweb.com/media/2012/05/21/how-pixars-toy-story-...
To those people the mindset is:
If I do X I might gain something (or feels good) and no mater what I'll never suffer any retaliation for it. Why shouldn't I do it?
Those figures of 4% are fairytales, not unlike what most psychologists said before knowing the outcomes of the Milgram experiment.
Almost no one believed that the vast majority of subjects would take the experiment to its end.
By assuming you know why people are doing things, you've already biased yourself against future information that may contradict that. Maybe sometimes they aren't doing it to be a dick to you, and maybe sometimes what you view as gloating isn't directed at you, or isn't actually gloating.
They'll do it in private so that their social standing doesn't suffer but they are very explicit about it.
Not a lot of room left for assumptions after this.
Downvote away.
How many, out of all the people you interact with? It's safe to make your assumption the people who revealed their workings to you, but not with everyone else.
So with your mindset, it's no wonder people react to you the way you describe it. But believe it or not - most probably you are the problem, not them.
Giving into anger is the easy thing to do, but in doing so we become emotionally blinded to more practical courses of action which we may have realized if we had kept our cool.