I play FIFA (and soccer IRL) quite a bit and the highest level players (yes, there are professional FIFA players) actually play the game much closer to what you're referring to as the optimal style of play: short ground passes, keeping possession, playing backwards to keep possession, very little trying to beat your man one-on-one, creating chances by making runs, defending by jockeying your man without gambling, and good shots from good positions. At a high level, it's well understood by players that most scoring opportunities are created by causing the opposing team to lose their defensive shape through probing passes and runs, and then capitalizing on that space. Of course FIFA is not a simulation and can't be fully realistic - you're generally fitting a 90 minute soccer match into about 12 minutes of real life gameplay.
What you're describing sounds like typical youth behavior, but you're blaming it on video games. Before video games, kids would try to do things they saw their pro idols do on television as well. It didn't ruin the game.