Some of our ideas overlap but the words might be different:

* Faith and worldview * compassion * kindness * obedience * discipline * perseverance * desire for truth * problem solving / improvisation

Faith / World view is huge for us because it drives everything else really.

I've learned also that sometimes trying to foist certain nonessentials on kids can be counter productive. E.g. Bike riding. I tried to make him do it and he hated it. We just left it out and now he loves it. We do make him obviously do school and also martial arts.