Is that ~1 month timeframe normal? Just curious what other people think.
Looking back, recently, there's been a few friends where I say to myself "I really should've hung out with them that weekend," because now we're not talking..
Some weeks we chat online almost every day. But sometimes we'll go 2-3 months without communicating at all. When we touch base again, the friendship seems as great as ever.
To me those are the best kind of friends :)
It's my opinion that the more extreme manifestation of this need for frequent contact arises from a lack of emotional object constancy[0]. Unfortunately I've found no strategic way out so far...
> This is because of my ineptness at maintaining object constancy. I always struggle to feel loved by a person unless they are in the process of demonstrating it to me - I just can't feel it unless I'm seeing it, touching it, or hearing it. Otherwise I feel totally disconnected, and potentially abandoned. [1]
[0] thoughtsfromj8.com/2015/01/15/object-constancy-adult-version/ [1] bpdbunny.blogspot.com/2013/01/bpd-object-constancy-or-why-i-love.html?m=1