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It is pretty obvious that the title is unnecessarily gendered, and that in this case it plays into broader stereotypes about women in STEM fields. I'm not sure why you are so insistent on defending it -- this is exactly the kind of thing that needs to stop happening if we really want a more inclusive atmosphere in the field.

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The author recently tried to explain to his SO some tech stuff, including machine learning. Then, he wrote a blog post about it. However, he's not allowed to share it because... sexism? My ex and I followed very different career paths. I was clueless about fine art restoration and she didn't know much about programming. Yet we used to explain stuff to each other all the time, For Dummies style. OP follows the same quirky approach.

There's nothing inclusive in your attitude, only anger and blindness to the most obvious, harmless interpretation.

It makes the title less useful to focus on the gendered, social relationship than who the girlfriend was as a student. In the case of my friends, "girlfriend" could mean anything from "basically math illiterate" to "has a PhD in a technical field that isn't ML and doublechecks my proofs cause she's smarter than me".

The author decided not to tell us anything about who he taught -- where on that range she fell -- just what her social role was... His.

That's what people are objecting to: in an article about teaching your gf something, why not make it about who she is as a student and what she learned instead of her social status as your mate?

It's that fundamental phrasing and framing of her, as it being more important to know her social status than anything about her academics, that people object to.

(All that aside, this is a silly thing to complain about. But it isn't nothing.)

No, you! If patronizing is the problem, you are way more guilty of it, making demands mostly devoid of explanations or references, insinuating a stereotype of an exclusive culture, while OP's intention is clearly inclusive (going by the title).

Edit: I have to redact a little bit, clearly "my girlfried" is possessive and exclusive, I feel slightly offended. I hope this sounds like sarcasm, although it is petty.

Not everyone spends their time constantly thinking about the degree of unnecessary gendered-ness of every piece of information they encounter.

Maybe you should stop shoving politics (no matter how well intentioned) into everything.

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