How to Work with Stupid People
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In this case, it would have been far better to be more aggressive. I could have started screaming as soon as things started to look strange and thus saved myself several weeks. But usually the heuristic is a good one.
Advice on two derivatives of this problem would be even more helpful:
1) How can you tell when you have sufficiently refined your communication with the other party?
2) How to reasonably judge the point at which the costs of continuing the discussion out-weight the benefits.
This is usually situation specific, but please share if you have any rules that can be applied.