I have done a little googling and apparently the preparation and active ingredients are highly secret. The most substantial info I can come up with is that it is purportedly crazy high in zinc. This
highly scientific (/Sarcasm) article is the source of this info:
http://www.secrets-of-longevity-in-humans.com/fo-ti-root.htm...A few thoughts as someone who has pursued a lot of alternative medicine (successfully, with a very critical eye):
Minerals, like zinc, can build up in the body. Thus they are a means to wind up poisoned. (Too much of anything is not good for you. Even water can kill you if consumed in excess. It gets called water poisoning.)
I was told by people who did their research that B vitamins (particularly PABA) and nutritional support for the adrenals can reverse grey hair. I was going prematurely grey due to a serious health crisis. I had some limited success with this approach in my thirties.
You could try taking zinc supplements to see if that is, in fact, the active ingredient in this super secret mumbo jumbo, minus the part where you expose yourself to god-knows-what.
If you don't actually care about your hair going grey, I strongly suggest you just tell her "No thanks." You shouldn't have to experiment with your own health to appease anyone at all.
Best.