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It's literally not. There's a huge difference between "being a bitch" and "not actively reinforcing the bo.nd with your child."

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The teenager is really just a petulant, kind of half-assed adult. The psychologist frames it the same way as the 4 year old, but knows it's really an entirely different ball game. The teenager actually has a functioning long-term memory, for instance.

Obviously the theoretical teenager and my comment are exaggerating it, but there's truth in there.

The 4 year old also has a functioning long-term memory. Our oldest (4 1/2 now) often recounts minuscule, random details of events 6-12 months ago that neither me nor my wife had mentioned since.

It's true that most adults have few memories from childhood, but that's something else entirely.

My nearly 5 year old remembers events from last Christmas in great detail, so they have a better long term memory than many people credit them for

This is why I treat my kids as adults who just aren't quite ready for adulthood. You can't fool most kids. We're the dull ones, not them, they're just inexperienced.

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