One thing that helped is switching the family member to a True Link card: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/True_Link
While not perfect, it does root out the obvious scammers and does make it much easier to push back and cancel those reccuring subscriptions that "some how" keep getting activated.
I have no affiliation with True Link, but posting it in hopes it can help someone with a similar problem.
Edit: Just now realized True Link has a YC affiliation, so maybe this is more on topic than I thought.