On the other hand, Israeli officials have been solidly professional when I visited. They can see my deadname too, as they have a data-sharing agreement with the USA.
This was really surprising to me a few years ago. (The first time I had left the US since I was a small child.) I had thought people were just complaining about long lines.
The Customs guy talked to me for >1 hour because I didn't make enough eye contact. And I'm an average looking white male who was coming back from a country that the US has a good relationship with...
My girlfriend is employed. So once they found that out, they had little concern and it became much more relaxed. My friend's girlfriend is not (student, finished undergrad and taking a bit of time off before starting a PhD program). They give her the third degree.
It doesn't help that it can be pretty arbitrary depending on which agent you get, too. Having a similar description to yours, customs agents have always let me walk through without difficulty. Except for one time coming back from Canada.
This was on the way back from Israel though, so I was very aware of how much easier re-entry into the US was than going to Israel.
But as a US citizen, I have no idea what visitors have to go through.