Sure the expected value can be zero. I know that options are essentially a lottery ticket. I'm just not sure if these options are very little or enough or a lot.
Then, unless they're publicly traded, or there is a legitimate secondary market, you can't even do a sell to cover.
The other way of providing equity is with RSU's, restricted stock units, where the company promises to give you, at each vesting date, a portion of stock. The problem there is that this is taxed as income on the value of the stock at vesting, and once again if there is no secondary market you'll not be able to sell enough to cover your tax liability and be in for a nasty invoice from the IRS that you need to scramble to cover.
I'd recommend having a financial planner walk through the ins and outs with you.