> You want to find your tribe – the types of people like you that you can imagine working with for the rest of your career. Within that, you want to find a small group of people whom you trust, and whose opinions you really respect. [emphasis mine]
There are a handful of people in the world who are "like me", with whom I have any significant intersection of history, interests or identities. And though I am able to include others in my circle by celebrating our differences, this mentality (and advice) encourages them to exclude me from theirs.
I really wish the commonly accepted advice when forming one's "tribe" would be to seek out others to connect with who are different from you, but who you share enough with to forge a bond. It's not just better advice to create a healthy whole, it's idiosyncratically more interesting (and professionally more profitable) to have a variety of friends and colleagues with different histories, biases and networks of their own.