For interested readers, here's some best practices for being a good upstream:
- Just use the GNU autotools. Users expect `./configure && make && make install` to work. Too often people roll their own configure scripts and Makefiles and they always miss something important. Distros expect there to be certain knobs to tweak, and configure scripts and Makefiles generated by the autotools have all of them.
- Don't bundle third-party dependencies. For security (and for better documentation of the true dependency graph) distros often must go through extra trouble to unbundle third-party libraries when present. Some project even add their own custom patches to their bundled source. Resist the urge to do this.
- Include accurate copyright information. Put a license header at the top of every source file. Any serious distro will need to do at least a cursory inspection of licensing info to make sure it meets requirements.
- Make proper source release tarballs. Do not depend on your version control tool being available at build-time. Do not depend on the autotools being available build time. Use 'make distcheck' to make a fully bootstrapped tarball to distribute.
- Do not make any use of the Internet during a build. That means no downloading third-party libraries, pre-built binaries, etc. It's imperative that a build can succeed without network access, and some distributions isolate builds from the network to ensure they don't misbehave.
- Do not hardcode absolute paths to binaries. No /usr/bin/bash or etc. Your assumption will surely fail on a non-trivial number of systems. Find the location of a binary at configure time by inspecting $PATH. GNU autoconf can do that and substitute the absolute file name where it's needed, such as in a script's shebang. The same advice can be applied for anything else you need an absolute file name for.
- Do not assume /usr exists. The Filesystem Hierarchy Standard is not as popular as it used to be. This is a more generalized form of the previous point. Again, if you use the Autotools you will be doing the right thing by default.
There's surely more, but that's what I can think of right now. Surely a Debian developer or someone else has compiled a more thorough list. Anyone know of one?
I think that today's software being so difficult to build is making practices that are frowned upon by distributions (for very good reason) seem like acceptable solutions, which leads us to the growing popularity of Docker, Snappy, and Flatpak. "This software is nearly impossible to build, so just use my {Docker,Snappy,Flatpak} bundle!"
tl;dr - Make your software easy to build, don't just package up a mess.