Personally it just feels wrong in some hard to define way to algorithmically determine the other sides maximum/minimum price through some process they don't have access to. I can certainly understand why you would do it but it just doesn't feel quite right.
I don't think I have an ethical problem with using small orders to sound out the other party. Where it tips over into being unethical for me is if those exploratory orders are cancelled rather than fulfilled. I'm surprised its even possible to cancel your offer once someone else has accepted it.