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It's not that simple. Rent is included because we would be looking to buy a home in the US. We currently own a home here. Rent is so we have time to find the right place. We could also use that money to do house hunting visits but those are a lot more expensive.

Here's a few other costs we've found and we find more every day:

- Legal and processing fees for filing immigration paper work, doctor's visits, travel to interviews

- One way airfare or multiple airfares if I move first and family comes later so I can see them

- Getting all our belongings packed up and moved by a reputable mover

- Assistance with job placement for my wife since she also works

- Realtor fees for buying/selling ourt homes

- Some assistance with furnishing the new home

It can go on and on.

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Some of the things you mention seem somewhat exaggerated. Your expectations and apparent level of entitlement are a bit surprising.

I wouldn't have said this if the offer level was, say $10k or $20k. But $30k seems pretty good even if you have decided that you require the ability to buy a house (not everybody has that privilege; you should feel lucky, and not take it for granted).

It is an offer. It gives you and your family certain benefits. You may also have certain costs. Those are your business. Just deal with them, or not.

You can take it or leave it. If coming to California is worth it for you and your family, take the offer. If not, don't. Not every opportunity in life is cost-free for you. For some of them, you have to step up and pay some of your own contribution.

That being said, your concerns are all valid. These are all things you need to consider, and it's good you're thinking it through. Maybe you can present them to your prospective employer as inputs to your decision. Just don't give them the feeling that you have a very entitled attitude, although you seem to, because that could backfire either with a withdrawn offer, or feelings of rancor later.

What's entitled about saying that these are real costs? I don't see him saying that they all need to be reimbursed but they are costs.

> Your expectations and apparent level of entitlement are a bit surprising.

Why do you say that?

It sounds like he doesn't want to be out of pocket for a relocation.

He has an upper middle class job and lifestyle and is moving for an upper middle class role. So he wants an upper middle class relocation package.

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