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Ya, I don't buy this. I know this is just my experience, but I've had plenty of "just friends" who were members of the opposite sex, and nothing bad ever happened.

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Just speaking for myself: I have never persued a friendship with a woman if I was not at least attracted to her.

I don't see female colleagues at my current job as friends and I feel the same about the girlfriends of my friends. Those are just platonic relationships to me that I am not interested in deepening in any way.

Wow, that's sad.

"sad" is being naive about the relationship between men and women

Naive, as in having an adolescent conception of the relationship between men and women; that's sad.

Indeed.

That is so odd to me. Why would you pursue (platonic) relationships with men if there's no attraction? Are you only attracted to women? (I'm assumig you're male.)

Or are you talking about sexual attraction? Do you view women as only sexual? I am simply trying to figure out what men provide that women can or do not.

Personally (as a man) I can't make heads or tails out of how to interact with other men outside of work; I am precisely the opposite of you.

I am only sexually attracted to woman of course.

But at the same time I think men are generally more fun to be around. Woman are in some way 'less funny' on average.

Let say a particular woman is not sexually attractive to you but get along very well with you, would you still not interested to be friend with her?

Invalid premise. If not sexually attracted, they would not get along that well

We could get along just fine, professionally. I can get along just fine with many female colleagues at work. I am just not interested in keeping contact outside of the professional environment and neither in becoming friends, unless I am sexually attracted to a woman.

But now I have a wife and a baby, so I will not bother with other female relationships anyway. I like to keep things simple in life :)

I would recommend you do bother. Having a social life very enjoyable, even if we sometimes think it's not needed. Besides, you're not the only guy your wife is taking to, stop kidding yourself

I would say yours is invalid. I'm an asexual male and do seek friendship with both genders, more because of the need for seeking social interaction. And I do believe I do get along well with people even without second intentions.

I'm an Apache attack helicopter

>"I have never persued a friendship with a woman if I was not at least attracted to her."

if that is the case, it doesn't sound like you are actually pursuing friendships

of course. because, generally speaking, men and women have very few shared interests or behaviors (and that's not sarcasm in case it wasn't clear)

Me either, although as mentioned elsewhere in the comments the ratios (male:female) were mentioned but not the magnitudes. Also they only applied to pairs of friends who were willing to attend a study like this together.

Personally, I have plenty female friends with whom I know there is no attraction.

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