The various Illumos distributions routinely upstream their changes into the master Illumos repository ( https://github.com/illumos/illumos-gate). I know that ZFS on Linux (https://github.com/zfsonlinux/zfs) routinely integrates those changes, as well as making some of its own and I believe pushing them upstream to Illumos. When I've looked at FreeBSD commit logs, they too are pulling in ZFS changes from Illumos on a frequent basis (but I know less about any independent development and upstreaming).

My strong impression is that the ZFS code base is a sufficiently big and tangled thing that no one wants it to fragment. With bug-fixes and improvements happening in Illumos, ZoL and FreeBSD both want to be able to incorporate them on a regular basis and to push their own changes upstream to reduce the maintenance burden of carrying those changes.