Good advice, however I've already done that: people are the same, and I am the same person. Therefore not interested.
Anyway, I get what you mean.
Of course, if you are pretty, people seemingly everywhere will react in certain ways to it. If you are abrasive, likewise, you will get according reactions.
That is often not fair, and on top of it, often we misspresent our feelings, and/or are missinterpreted. I don't particularly like the way humans are social. Nevertheless, recognizing the quirks is important, even though one might despise them. It's sounds a bit antisocial-personality-disorderly, but it is not.
Do you have an idea where stuff fails and goes downward?
I know for myself — as I did experience on my own — that some experiences can change you, and thus change others reaction to you.
Why don't you try to go where peoples social behaviour is fundamentally different? It might sound super weird now, but I went to a BDSM community, and it gave me air to breath. I met there some of the most decent and pleasure-to-deal-with people. I'm not recommending that to you, but it might give inspiration. I don't know your surroundings, but I bet that there are places where the social norm is vastly different, and that might help.
Other commonly-repeated bad advice includes:
* Try exercising.
* Go hiking -- when you're one with nature, life's troubles with seem insignificant.
* Force yourself out of bed and go take on the world! (aka "chin up, buster!")
There's just one good and true advice: Please seek help.
"There's just one good and true advice"
People are different. Some of the advice which you say is bad, is actually wonderful for some people.
It doesn't sound like good advice if you're depressed, it sounds like an anxiety inducing platitude.
It's an especially evil piece of advice when offered to friends and family. Many depressed people lack the physical energy and willpower to put themselves through the psychiatric system, again and again, without any support. If I believed in hell I think there would be a special place in it for people who tell their loved ones to "seek help" when those loved ones are currently, by telling them, trying to seek help.
Honestly sometimes it gets to the point that I don't even want to spend time around other people unless they are equally chronically depressed, because you can't have an honest conversation with people who aren't. They either go into pollyanna mode or tough love mode and neither come from a place of actual connection and understanding. I think it's too scary for them to try to understand so they don't really try, and we get a multitude of platitudes that don't do anything except maybe make the giver feel better about themselves for doing a "good deed". If you explain why the platitudes don't help they usually just get mad. I think suicidal people spend more time doing emotional labor for non-suicidal people than the other way around. And then they call us selfish for leaving when we've finally had enough.
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