From what I've heard of the Jobs/PARC visit I don't think I'd characterize it that way. In Walter Isaacson's "The Innovators" he says that Xerox had taken an ownership stake in Apple and some higher-ups decided to give them valuable tech.
Also, Alan Kay had a Quora answer on this:
https://www.quora.com/What-was-it-like-to-be-at-Xerox-PARC-w...