A succinct definition of OOP would be nice to combat the misinformation you're complaining about.
The description of OOP provided in the Wikipedia article on programming paradigms [1] matches my current understanding of OOP.
> object-oriented which groups code together with the state the code modifies,
Maybe that's a little too succinct, because I think it's also worth noting how [2]
> In OOP, computer programs are designed by making them out of objects that interact with one another.
I certainly wouldn't consider coupling state and function completely orthogonal to OOP though. I doubt most other programmers would either.
I guess this might demonstrate the inertia of the so-called misinformation, but when the majority disagree with your definition of a term, you might want to step back and consider whether you're the one who's misinformed.
[1] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Programming_paradigm
[2] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Object-oriented_programming