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I don't really fault people for taking decisions this way, but isn't this the opposite of how the decision should be made? I have a feeling that people would feel feel like they didn't really choose their partner if the main reason they decided to get married was to raise children.

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It's not that your partner's attributes are unimportant, it's that if you are clear that you do want to start a family then this fact is rightly at the front of your mind when looking for a partner and the decision will flow from it. If you don't wish to start a family then other factors will come into play. However in the latter case you still need to include questions like whether you or your partner might have a change of mind later on, what options will remain, what retirement without children might look like, etc.

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