A Theory of Jerks (2014)
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It's not that they don't care why the waiter messed up their order, it's that they think the waiter messed up because they're a jerk.
That's a subordinate clause where "jerk" is referring to the waiter, not the main subject, hence it's not circular.
Try:
the waiter messed up because he's a jerk.
"The man shoved the waiter because he was in his way."
Pronouns only have a few bits of information, everything else has to be inferred from context. (A big problem in natural language processing.)
"Yeah, but everyone's a jerk. You, me, this jerk. That's my philosophy."
Also, if communication only really works well going down the dominance hierarchy, doesn't this suggest that power is contextual, so that it can change directions and allow communications to flow in different directions?
EDIT: Relevant to the article - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IVTogKE25aQ
"It's known" sounds a little final.
In a more level tone: there are venues for equalizing communication, because of course in society there are hierarchies that we've struggled with for ages. The charge for any individual is being willing to expose themselves to those environments and being willing to engross themselves in the mess of what that kind of interaction can turn up.
Then again, I kind of side with Bohm about the connectedness of people, and yet...
I raise you Bohm on communication problems:
>If each one of us can give full attention to what is actually ‘blocking’ communication while he is also attending properly to the content of what is communicated, then we may be able to create something new between us, something of very great significance for bringing to an end the at present insoluble problems of the individual and of society.
Scratch all the drunk talk that follows and I also raise you this:
http://www.nytimes.com/1974/02/17/archives/the-irish-pub-is-...
There traditionally (in some cultures, anyway) venues where people from various social hierarchies were equals when they passed the threshold, and communication is then wide open. They still exist -- but if you're North American don't count on finding them on the strip.
I don't argue that doesn't happen, but I don't think it's isolated to one end of the spectrum. I would bet the symptoms are the same at either extreme -- right or left.
If you mean "center-left" when you say right, I think what you're actually implying is communication is better tolerated in communities with more balance between political viewpoints, and less given to extremes.
But traditionally, outside of movements, it's been somewhat bad form to bring politics into the pub at all.
Is there another video about what you wrote?
However, let me make one important addition. The author says that the person who is not a jerk is a sweetheart. However, following Aristotle's theory of the golden mean, let me point out there is also a third type, namely someone who discounts their own perspective and always thinks the other person is right, and so goes around feeling guilty and inferior.
There is a magical center of action, greatly to be desired, where one neither runs over others nor lies down to be overrun.
But most of the words he mentions are old words that changed their meaning back in the days when litteral aristocrats, kings, dukes and princes ruled the English speaking lands and their neighbours. "Jerk" changed recently and I wonder if the change hints at a new class system.
I am not sure what timeframe they are using for reference.
In any event, I'm sure you can agree that "rude" no longer means simply "unsophisticated".
Absolutely hilarious. I guess one point he's making is that men have a problem with noncompliance, but seems to have forgotten the upside entirely
If you do a word-replace of all instances of 'he' with 'she' and 'his' with 'her', it becomes an entirely different article.
Or do you mean that it is a human eternal, the instinctive reaction of womens' inner bullshit detectors?
The guy who thinks that "being nice" to women is what gets them relationships + sex & that they're being wronged when a women rejects them even after they've "been nice" is definitely a thing.
Stupid “smart” auto-correct on the phone keyboard...
[1] https://www.amazon.com/Assholes-Theory-Aaron-James/dp/080417...
1st half, longwinded exploration of semantics. 2nd half, making some random assertions based on no data.
so, a sociopath?
is this theory really new or interesting?
Some sociopaths are very good at understanding other people's perspectives, and they use that understanding to trick them, as in the case of con artists. Other sociopaths, the thug-types, instead use force and threats, and so they are not so concerned with understanding other people's psychology.