Like anything else it's a tradeoff, and for the average user not having to install separate dependencies (at least on windows and mac) is going to be easier, and 50 or 100 mb isn't something anyone is going to really have an issue with in the vast majority of cases.
For you, it sounds like it hurts more than it helps, but for others the options may be:
1. Don't use slack at all because they can't figure out how to install the correct version of libthingy.dll. Or they don't get the app at all because it's not for their platform.
2. Use slack
And in that scenario, the option they went with wins hands down.
I'm not saying it's perfect, and I still believe that giving both options would be a benefit for most, but the fact that it is done this way wasn't a "mistake", it was a tradeoff for the targeted audience solving problems that many had.
I suppose it's a problem on mobile though.
Qt programs are pretty small. Java are bigger but still much much smaller than any Electron-based program.
IIRC JRE is about 50 MB. Probably less. So even if you include it with your Java program, it's STILL smaller than Electron programs.