But bees and ants have genetically determined reasons for their social structures - their genetic makeup is more strongly shared between siblings than offspring so it's in their rational self-interest to be sterile themselves and to farm their sisters (usually just one sister - the queen) so as to maximise their biological utility function - which is usually the greatest number of closely related bees or ants out there.

Most other species don't have this sort of genetic makeup, so it wouldn't be rational for most of us non-Hymenopterae to mimic the social order of such insects.