The median home value in Alameda County is $796,600. Median income is $97,000, total comp for software engineers at your company ranges between 100 and 255K/year, so you are already above the median income in that county.

According to: https://www.investopedia.com/news/how-much-income-puts-you-t... "The top 5% of households earn an annual income of $214,462 or higher"

Most folks in the US, or the world would consider you rich and deserving of paying more taxes.

For comparison, "the U.S. Census Bureau reported in September 2017 that real median household income was $59,039 in 2016".