and the constant drumbeat that you must attend a $60k/year private school or your life is ruined. instead of a state college or better yet a 2 year community college + 2 year state. very cheap
There was absolutely no pressure, in my experience from a random boring part of white suburbia, for anyone to do anything but go to one of the states’s relatively cheap public universities.
People who went to places like MIT, Harvard, or expensive liberal arts colleges were a rare exception by far.